Friday, May 17, 2013

The "real" reason I've been MIA!

Over the past few months I have been going through a very difficult, very emotional, trying time.  I have not been blogging because first of all, I've always wanted my blog to be my "happy" space, but in reality, I've decided, it should be my honest, what's going on in my life space and what is a blog good for if you cannot write about what's going on in your life and get support from your friends.  I've really struggled with sharing this information because it is so personal and so horrible and so painful, but here goes.

On December 31, 1984, my wedding day, was the last time I saw my mother.  On March 25, 1985 she was brutally murdered in her place of business by a 22 year old drug addict.  The crime was very horrific and brutal, I won't give you gory details, but it was bad.  He stole less than $300 dollars from her and then went back and murdered her so he would not get caught.  My mother was the most kind, loving, giving person you would ever want to meet.  She had paid this guy to do odd jobs for her in order for him to make money.  She would have given him money if only he would have ask.

Back in the day of this crime, laws were very different.  He received "Life" in prison, but then there was no "no possibility of parole" and he would have to serve 51 years before being eligible to go before a parole board.  Due to the difference in the laws from then to now, he only had to serve 20 years before being eligible to apply for parole.  He has served 28 years, but we have to fight his parole every three years now.  It is the most horrible, painful, cruel and inhumane treatment that there is.  My family and I must endure reliving my mother's murder every three years!  I can tell you that it comes very quickly!! The only thing that we as the victims can do for this hearing is obtain oppositions against his release!  Yep, that's it!

I am only sharing this information because I really needed to write about it and get things out of my head.  I have not been blogging and keeping up with my friends because of all the work and time that I have to spend preparing for this lame judicial process that we have to endure, but also because during this time, I feel so guilty doing anything fun or rewarding.

All I am asking from my best bloggy buddies is that I need prayers to help me and my family make it through this horrible process and pray that this cold blooded murderer does not get released on parole.

This is my beautiful mother with me on my wedding day.  Her birthday is June 2, she would be 88 years old and I will be traveling to Tennessee on this day to attend her murderer's parole hearing on June 4.  Great vacation!??

Bless you all.  I am thanking all of you in advance for your prayers!  I really want my life back!!

Love and hugs,


  1. Ugh! You have been on my mind, and in my prayers. I hope that the letters and other forms of communication have helped.

    You're seems as if you were just dealing with this! Wow, time flies.


  2. Ginger,what a terrible thing to have had to experience. I can't imagine how awful it is for you. You will be in my prayers.xx

  3. I can't imagine your struggle and pain, but I am sending you my best prayers for comfort, strength, and resolve for you and your family. So very sorry for your loss and the continuing fight. (((Gloria)))

  4. I have been praying for you and your family, Ginger. This whole ordeal is reprehensible to me. Hang in there. xo

  5. I cannot imagine. I really can't. But my heart breaks for you, and it's supremely unfair that you have to go through this every 3 years. What is the meaning of a life sentence if it's less than even 1/2 a life, and you continue to hurt the victims often? The system is broken, and I wish I could fix it for you. I'm hoping that somebody shivs him in prison, so this madness can end for you.

  6. I am so sorry my friend. It's all so terrible and sad. I told my husband your story and we both got very quiet. We'll keep you in our prayers my friend. I wish I could give you a big ole hug. Just know that I care and will pray. Your buddy, Diane

  7. I am blessed that I have no idea and can't even imagine what you have, and still must, go thru. All I can do is tell you how truly sorry I am that u must endure this. I will certainly keep u in my thoughts and prayers.

  8. Oh, Ginger. I had no idea that our legal system could work this way. I am so sorry you and your family have to go through this ordeal every three years. I will keep you in my prayers.

  9. Ginger dear, I am so sorry you and your family are facing this monster. I don't understand how they can let a person out after taking a life. You have my prayers and healing thoughts. To lose your mother is tragic. xoxo Linda

  10. Oh dear Ginger, The system is so messed up, who ever thought this could be a good idea, he's the same person now that he was three years ago when you provided proof that he needed to stay there. But I must tell you that as bad as your system is, I think it is a whole lot better than our system. The judicial system has gone soft on crime, it's the victims like your beautiful Mother and their families who suffer.
    I will pray for you Ginger, God can and will give your strength to do this one more time.
    Love and hugs, Cindy

  11. Oh Ginger,
    I'm so sorry to hear all of this. I had a feeling that things were not alright with you lately. Call it intuition. I am thinking of you and sending you a big hug of comfort.



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